So if you have been reading my blog for any amount of time one thing you should know is those are words best not said to me, because telling me that “I can’t do something” is just fuel for my Greek Girl fire. Seriously though, don’t you just love how when you set out to do something big or hard there is usually someone around to say something to that effect?
Sometimes these people think they mean well, but really if you ask me it is more because they gave up on something they were not able to accomplish at one point or another in their life and so they are now the new cheerleaders for “playing it safe”. What they often times turn into are bullies. Hello… can anyone say annoying?
With me it is the fact that I have been going after my dream and goal (music and acting) for a long time. Did I mention it has been a long, long, long, time 😉 ? Some people choose to give up on things and start to say things like: “it’s just not meant to be” or “it must not be meant for me, if it were going to happen it would have happened by now”, and yada, yada, yada. That might be all good and well for those people, and that is fine for them. I’m wired a little different, I’m Greek which is also another word for stubborn. See when I set out to do something no matter how long or how hard it is I stick with it until it is done. It applies to everything I do from my workouts to my career pursuit.
Personally I think that is one of the problems we have in society right now, too many people think if something is too hard it’s not worth doing or pursuing. People are so used to having instant gratification, getting things “Now” that they forget the value in hard work. They don’t remember that when you work hard to earn something you appreciate and savor it. You do not squander it or opportunities.
Back to the story… so last week I had two auditions for National Commercials two days in a row. Being that summer is usually slow, this was a good thing and I wanted to share it with my facebook peeps. Well two girls I went to high school with (whom apparently have not left) girls I was not even friends with more acquaintances decided it would be a good idea to mock the fact that I asked my friends to pray about it.
So I did what any good Greek Girl using her coconut would do… I banned and blocked them from my page. Really who has time for nonsense? Life is too short and too busy to waste energy on people who are ugly inside. Apparently the fact that I am still going after my dream is funny to them. One of them even went as far as to send an email to my official website a few years back saying very sarcastically that she didn’t remember my having blonde hair back in high school, then giving the year. Like she was telling on me or something… lol
Last time I checked coloring your hair was not against any law, besides the fact that anyone who knows anything about me knows that I pick on myself all the time for all sorts of things and have never presented myself as a natural blonde. (Hello – see blog about it) She also mentioned a National Commercial I was in where I was playing the daughter and she insinuated the woman playing the mom was around my same age, again like she was telling some big secret. Here’s a quick Greek Girl lesson in English: Acting = pretend. ’nuff said. You can be young and play old, or old and play young, that is the beauty of acting. I didn’t cast the commercial, if I look right for a part whatever that part is and the casting director thinks I’m right for it, who is some misery factory to say otherwise? Also a topic I have blogged about (see Birthday blog)
I just find it silly that people waste so much energy on telling others what they “can’t” do. Say la vie, if someone wants to give up on something that might be the right choice for them. For me it’s finish or die, in the words of one of my heroes Sir Winston Churchill “Never, Never, Never Give Up.” That’s just how I roll and I don’t see what the big whoop is if I choose to persevere despite what it might look like in the natural. I guess what irked me most was the fact that they were mocking my faith.
Why did I take the time to tell you this? Because something else I am very passionate about besides my career endeavors is helping people to see their potential. Far too many people don’t realize how strong they are. So when the bullies in life show up telling them “You Can’t Do that” they give in or it starts to sink in. I’m here to say to you whatever you’re trying to accomplish whether it is to start a business, get a degree, get in shape, be an astronaut for crying out loud whatever it is, ignore the bullies. You CAN do it if you stick with it and do not give up.
“When push comes to shove no matter what it is, when the going get tough you have two choices: Give in or Dig in.” ~ Ava Aston
Have a beautiful day!
Blessings, Love & Music ~
Ava 😀 xo